every picture is a link to information – click
whenever you choose to do something, you choose to do so because it makes you feel better
AND you think that it is the best option at that time
→ knowing about other options that make you feel better can lead you to choose other behavior
whenever you do something - it is your choice!
Highest Level: Happiness for all
You are happy and you make others happy at the same time. All are happy
You develop self-discipline and self-reliance
You show kindness to others - You do good because it is the right thing to do
Your motivation is internal: You do it because it's good for both you and others
Intermediate Level: Cooperation/Conformity
You make others happy, but you may not be happy while doing that
You listen - You cooperate
You do what is expected because you like the positive attention
Your motivation is external: You want to do it because you will be rewarded
Low Level: Bossing/Bullying
You are happy, but you make others unhappy
You boss others - You bother and bully others
You break rules
Your motivation is based on fear: You only do it to avoid punishment
Lowest Level: Unhappiness for all
You make others unhappy and you are unhappy yourself also
You disrespect other peoples’ interests and make many others unhappy
Your behavior is unsafe, unproductive, unsuccessful
Your motivation is limited to your own interest: others don't count.
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motivation must come from within – your best choice of what you really want…
To be an A student in school you must first strive to be a level A student in Life…
To succeed in any aspect of life, you must be motivated on the Highest Level !!!
The
Ten Axioms of Choice Theory
1. The only person whose behavior we can control is our own.
2. All we can give another person is information.
3. All long-lasting psychological problems are relationship problems.
4. The problem relationship is always part of our present life.
5. What happened in the past has everything to do with what we are today, but we can only satisfy our basic needs right now and plan to continue satisfying them in the future.
6. We can only satisfy our needs by satisfying the pictures in our Quality World.
7. All we do is behave.
8. All behavior is Total Behavior and is made up of four components: acting, thinking, feeling and physiology.
9. All Total Behavior is chosen, but we only have direct control over the acting and thinking components. We can only control our feeling and physiology indirectly through how we choose to act and think.
10. All Total Behavior is designated by verbs and named by the part that is the most recognizable.
whenever
you want to act on your feelings:
choose your best option of action